A set of domestic wind-chimes, owned by a dear, late German friend who died (AIDS-related) at age of just 40 in 1990. I was myself living at the time in Germany. After his passing I took over his apartment in Cologne and lived there for a year until financial necessities forced me, unwillingly, to return to England.
Heinz-Jurgen had brought the chimes over from San Francisco when he'd been visiting his closest friend, an American, in Sacramento, where this friend lived and still does. (I actually met him, and we've maintained mutual e-mail contact to this very day).
I'd set these chimes up inside my kitchen window here in Worthing when I moved here in 2000 - their gentle tinkling reminded me daily of that dear friendship of the past (as if I needed any reminding!). It was the sole possession of his that I now owned, putting me in mind of not only H-J, but also the several other friends, German, Dutch and English, I lost from around that time for that same reason.
Couple of months ago (I really should have posted about this before now) I was in my living room when I heard a clatter from the kitchen, at first thinking that one or both of my cats had upset something. On investigating, before I knew what had happened I looked out of the back window (my apartment is on the first floor - 'second' floor, I believe, in America!) and saw a female figure with distinctive hair - couldn't see her face- actually making an exit from 'our' back garden - through the gate which must have been left unbolted from the inside. I called out to her but she either didn't hear me or (more likely?) had slunked guiltily away out of sight. Only then did I notice that the chimes were no longer hanging there - and that was what I'd heard. How on earth it had dropped down from inside the kitchen and out through the opening of 8 inches or so (left permanently so for the cats), slid down onto the projecting sloping roof below and then dropped down into the garden below. At first I thought it must have been caught in the guttering, but no! Though then - that lady! I went down and outside, but by then she'd gone - no doubt holding my dear chimes. She must have been close by when she'd heard the sound of their falling onto the ground, tried the solid wooden back garden gate and, on finding it unbolted, seen the object lying there, and taken it up for herself. Just what sort of person would - or could - do such a thing!!! And in broad daylight too! On that day there'd been a lot on my mind and I do sadly recall thinking "Oh well, it's gone! Too bad!" I can't tell you how bad I still now feel on having thought so!
Some days after that event, thinking that the thief having disappeared so quickly, must have lived close by, even perhaps next-door (a large house divided into three or four flats), I wrote a long note addressed to 'All resident here' detailing what had happened, the value the object had meant to me, and that I'd seen the criminal, if only the top of her head. What I didn't say is that if I'd been flushed with money I would have paid a tidy to sum to have the stolen item back - even with no questions asked! As it is, and having checked on eBay, a similar set of chimes can be purchased for a mere £30 (American $40) or even less. Of course I myself could buy another, but naturally it wouldn't have any of the same sentimental value at all. It's hardly surprising that I got no response to the note I posted. If everyone next door had read it, including that lady herself - or if somebody read it who knows but is shielding her - I simply do not know what else I can do.
Still missing it every single day. Absolutely irreplaceable. It cuts me deep.
Sorry the vile person took your chimes. Even if they'd fallen from your window to the ground, she could have told someone and returned them.
ReplyDeleteYes, I think continually of "How would SHE feel if somebody stole something of great sentimental value to herself?" Just shrug it off (as I at first shamefully did)? I think rather not.
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I'm sorry for your loss, Ray. What a terrible violation of your personal space and property. I hope someday, that thief experiences a similar theft so maybe she'll understand the cruelty she inflicted.
DeleteUnfortunately dear friend people like her probably don't have any sentimentality to anything, everything's either disposable or just taken. And people wonder why I enjoy the animal kingdom more.
DeleteJayGee - I keep on discovering how many such people there are around - and I don't know why I'm surprised but I am so every time. Surprised and deeply disappointed.
DeleteS/b. - My guess is that if a similar loss happens to her she won't think of what she herself had done - and I doubt if it had been her first time - but she'll also be moaning "Such nasty people around!"
M.M, - Yes, that's true. It's THEIR world and everyone else must conform to THEIR wishes. So 'Trump-ian'!
And as a fellow animal-lover/worshipper, I can only agree with you.
What an absolute shame that somebody would do that. It's funny cuz I to have Chimes that were given to me that hang in my back Garden and every time I hear them it brings back thoughts of that friend. Now another story comes to mind of a friend who had wind chimes in her garden. Apparently hers went missing also. It was only months later that another neighbor of hers told her, she thought a mutual neighbor took them...she too had wind chimes stolen, and this neighbor thought a mutual neighbor of theirs was behind it all .. as he had publicly said that he couldn't stand the sound of wind chimes, and they would keep him up at night if the wind was blowing. What a shame two people had wind chimes taken only because some guy couldn't stand the sound of them. Unless they chime loudly like Big Ben, it's beyond me how anyone's bothered by the sound of wind chimes. I find them very calming and Serene myself. I hope one day you'll find a set of wind chimes that will bring you joy again. People these days have no respect for people's property or belongings.
ReplyDeleteIn my case it couldn't have been any sound the chimes were making as they were hanging AGAINST the window pain, and any slight tinkle must have been practically unheard on the outside. No, she wanted them for herself - and, I suspect, if she'd read my communication and through it felt even a slight tinge of guilt, she's quite likely to have put them in the bin by now.
DeleteAs at now, I've no inclinataion to buy another set of chimes for myself.
What a dreadful human. I fear we are being overrun with them these days. It feels overwhelming.
ReplyDeleteShe was/is exactly that, Elle. It's disheartening to think that she MAY well be far more common in number than we'd like to think. Ever so sad!
DeleteWhat a rotten person to do that. So sorry for that loss.
ReplyDeleteToo many nasty people around, Mitch. Even if at the time she didn't really think how much the chimes had meant to me, she almost certainly got to know it afterwards. But now I suppose her main thought would be detract from her theft, and the best way to do that will have been either to give it away to someone else or to put it in the rubbish. Depressing!
DeleteThat is awful. I totally get how you feel. About 20 years ago I had my Nan's antique and quite valuable earrings stolen. They had been passed down the family for generations and were of great sentimental value to me. We had a team of plumbers fitting a bathroom at the time and we made them tea and bacon rolls and left them to it to go for a walk. We couldn't claim on the insurance because we had let them in. I too wrote a letter saying how much of sentimental value they were to me if they were returned by leaving them in our garden shed nothing more would be said about the matter. Of course I got no response. The irony is that they were passed to me by my Mum as she didn't want the responsibility of them. I could never bring myself to tell her. It still rankles now after all this time.
ReplyDeleteThat's a worse experience than mine for you, Carol, hurtful as mine has been. It must have been beyond forgiveable, and who could blame you for feeling so? Indescribable! If anyone could say " Just forget it!" to you, shut them out of your life! Distressing and VERY painful. If anything, your experience has put my own into perspective.
DeleteI've always thought of wind chimes as being particularly evocative. What a shame someone would do something like that. You might, however, check out a movie in which chimes (both sound and sight) play a role in the plot. The movie is one of my favorites, "Body Heat" with Kathleen Turner and William Hurt. It hardly compensates for your loss though.
ReplyDeleteI DID see 'Body Heat, H., way back in Feb 1982 (so my film 'register' tells me) - but now, even reading up on the plot, I don't recall it at all. I think under present circs I'll put off trying to see it again for a while. Thanks anyway.
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