tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post2574056695498302859..comments2024-03-17T23:08:28.960-07:00Comments on Raybeard: Journey's end for Blackso. Goodbye, my very dearest friend. Raybeardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12424095016313843883noreply@blogger.comBlogger64125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-58458294141149192782017-08-10T11:42:04.632-07:002017-08-10T11:42:04.632-07:00Thank you for saying that, L.H.
Thank you for saying that, L.H. <br /><br />Raybeardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424095016313843883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-19744030517228253642017-08-10T09:44:28.176-07:002017-08-10T09:44:28.176-07:00Hello!! I'am glad to read the whole content of...Hello!! I'am glad to read the whole content of this topic and am very excited.Thank you.<br /><a href="https://reviewmovie2016.wordpress.com/" rel="nofollow">ดูหนัง</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-4277984351388259152017-08-10T09:00:11.947-07:002017-08-10T09:00:11.947-07:00Yes, it's a consoling read, S.S. I also hope A...Yes, it's a consoling read, S.S. I also hope Athene returns here to see your commendation. Raybeardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424095016313843883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-38855704533122495022017-08-10T06:43:59.800-07:002017-08-10T06:43:59.800-07:00Coming back to thank Athene for the link to the Te...Coming back to thank Athene for the link to the Telegraph article, which I have just read.<br /><br /><br /><a href="https://sex-tip-advice.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">ทางบ้าน</a><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-21780015568490332112017-08-06T07:53:08.901-07:002017-08-06T07:53:08.901-07:00Many thanks, F.B. I miss him desperately still. To...Many thanks, F.B. I miss him desperately still. Tomorrow morning (at 5.45. a.m.) makes four weeks since his 'departure, and it was such a prolonged and cruel end, something he just didn't deserve. I still weep for him. Raybeardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424095016313843883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-62067421850165022302017-08-06T05:58:08.363-07:002017-08-06T05:58:08.363-07:00My belated condolences.
Hug. My belated condolences. <br />Hug. Fearsome Beardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12338879036238705400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-26754234195844609892017-07-28T07:58:31.526-07:002017-07-28T07:58:31.526-07:00Yes, it's been a great solace for me, P.S., an...Yes, it's been a great solace for me, P.S., and I'm so grateful for every one of them. However, the pain inside is still very real - and I don't suppose it will ever heal completely though time may make it not so difficult to live with.Raybeardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424095016313843883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-25755424089032012642017-07-28T01:53:55.740-07:002017-07-28T01:53:55.740-07:00I mostly wanted to say that it was extremely heart...I mostly wanted to say that it was extremely heartwarming to see all of the kind and encouraging comments on your previous post.<br />Take care. <br /><br /><br /><a href="https://review-chelsea-news.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">บอลพรุ่งนี้</a><br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-43835015273950694052017-07-24T10:24:01.403-07:002017-07-24T10:24:01.403-07:00I've had so many lovely messages, Ron, that I ...I've had so many lovely messages, Ron, that I never looked to see who had written - so your very heartening comment is as welcome as it ever would be.<br />Yes, I too have cried a lot over the last two weeks (it was two weeks ago today when it happened) just as you did over your beautiful little Horace - and I think there's more to come out of me. But it's nothing to be ashamed of, in fact I'm proud of expressing my yet living love I ad and have him.<br />I too console myself with the thought that I may see my lovely little friend again - but I do wish I shared your conviction that I will, so I'll keep working at it.<br />Thanks again, Ron.Raybeardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424095016313843883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-57020715747962265432017-07-24T07:03:06.143-07:002017-07-24T07:03:06.143-07:00Ray,
Heartbreaking. Just now I am reading about yo...Ray,<br />Heartbreaking. Just now I am reading about your devastating loss of Blacks. I am so sorry Ray. But you will always have your memories of your friend Blackso. I understand your loss. When I lost my beloved Horace (my ginger Pomeranian) in 1998, for the first time in my life I cried like I had never cried before for any loss of a pet or human being in my life. Even I was surprised at my reaction. I know it is a cliche but time will heal the pain you now feel but time will never heal the loss that you have experienced. For me, my only way of dealing with the loss of my beloved pet was the knowledge that one day I would see him again soon. And of that I am convinced. <br />RonRonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11161930319264523497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-82906095834341109902017-07-12T02:35:17.845-07:002017-07-12T02:35:17.845-07:00Your hugs gladly accepted and reciprocated, Mitch ...Your hugs gladly accepted and reciprocated, Mitch - with special loving strokes to your own lovely little D & M. <br />Yes, but it was I who was the lucky one to have such a loving companion. I'd like to think that Blackso really appreciated me during his longer-than-usual kitty life, and that is what he showed, though one can never be entirely sure. What I can be certain of is that my affection-laden regard for him never dimmed once. <br />You'll know yourself that when they go a wound is left which never closes up, but that's just the way life (and death) is. <br />Thanks greatly for your kind words. They do help.Raybeardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424095016313843883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-48954737326023252522017-07-12T01:45:54.293-07:002017-07-12T01:45:54.293-07:00My heart goes out to you, as well as my love and a...My heart goes out to you, as well as my love and admiration. Blackso was so lucky to have you and you him. 17 years! What an amazing run. Sending you cyber hugs. Moving with Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12954028272162285597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-2646255225595549672017-07-11T08:21:30.263-07:002017-07-11T08:21:30.263-07:00Thanks, Judith. I've had so many supportive co...Thanks, Judith. I've had so many supportive comments that I hadn't noticed that yours hadn't yet been one of them - though your reason is, naturally, fully understandable.<br />Yes, of course you are right that we had a deep regard for each other, the fact that he fully trusted me makes me feel proud - though I've got the deep sense of guilt that the deterioration of his condition only started when he had an accident at the end of April, an accident that was largely due to my own negligence in not making sure that what he was to jump onto hadn't been secured down properly, and this gave him a concussion which started his rapid downward drift. I let him down and I'll never be able to forgive myself for it. If only I could have that moment back. :-(Raybeardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424095016313843883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-26112817356525199332017-07-11T08:07:49.075-07:002017-07-11T08:07:49.075-07:00Ta, Sol. Yes, I'm still here. The grief remain...Ta, Sol. Yes, I'm still here. The grief remains strong, especially every time I go into the kitchen, walking through the location where he expired with his very last view of the world. I'm still getting a little 'stab' in my heart.<br />Thanks for checking, though.Raybeardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424095016313843883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-62272201189084528572017-07-11T08:05:16.541-07:002017-07-11T08:05:16.541-07:00Yes, it's a shame for us, Judith. If I was twe...Yes, it's a shame for us, Judith. If I was twenty years younger I wouldn't hesitate, as you wouldn't, I guess. I'd love to give a neglected or injured animal some TLC - something they may have never known. If I ever win the National Lottery, animal charities (primarily Animal Rescue organisations) will be at the top of my list.Raybeardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424095016313843883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-61357148193461134352017-07-11T07:04:57.100-07:002017-07-11T07:04:57.100-07:00Hey Ray, just checking in. Hey Ray, just checking in. Solhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10518631542782309728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-66453650470602365162017-07-11T05:46:08.824-07:002017-07-11T05:46:08.824-07:00Coming back to thank Athene for the link to the Te...Coming back to thank Athene for the link to the Telegraph article, which I have just read. I live alone like you and sometimes I yearn to get another cat or dog, but at 73 I worry that I am too old and could very well pre-decease them. Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13974206679853189199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-20184024000560634522017-07-11T05:35:21.018-07:002017-07-11T05:35:21.018-07:00Oh Ray, I am so sorry. Rest easy, Blackso. I have ...Oh Ray, I am so sorry. Rest easy, Blackso. I have been offline for a few days so have only just caught up. John Gray has the right of it in his comments..."He died at home and with you" and he was loved and he loved you. Remember Ray that you have many friends all over the world.Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13974206679853189199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-34055774121516665772017-07-11T03:13:12.301-07:002017-07-11T03:13:12.301-07:00He'll always be a major fixture in my life sto...He'll always be a major fixture in my life story, L.A. - and I'm not in the least ashamed to say that he supercedes many - actually MOST, nearly all in fact - of the people I've ever known. I take comfort that even as I type this that he may now know exactly how much he was valued, though I suspect he already was aware of it. I can only bask in so many lovely memories of when I had him.<br />Many thanks for your visit, adding yet further to all the many words of consolation I've had. Cheers, my friend.Raybeardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424095016313843883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-49010298425930888082017-07-11T03:07:41.668-07:002017-07-11T03:07:41.668-07:00Your blessing thought very much appreciated, J - a...Your blessing thought very much appreciated, J - and I mean that from the heart. Thank you ever so much.Raybeardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424095016313843883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-71212599109948351172017-07-11T03:04:34.731-07:002017-07-11T03:04:34.731-07:00My cheeks are wet (not for the first time in the l...My cheeks are wet (not for the first time in the last thirty hours or so) after reading that, Athene, but I do genuinely thank you. It's bang on target in recognising the 'shameful' aspect of letting others know that you are grieving for an animal lost. As I say in a response above, I just cannot bear to hear the reaction "But it's ONLY a cat(dog/horse/rabbit/hedgehog/goldfish etc)!" That doesn't make the sadness any less real or less profound. <br />I thought it was very brave of Roy Hattersley to say that the loss of his dog was more painful than that of his mother. I'd never bring myself to utter such words though I might feel it inside. I always get round it by maintaining that the loss of a pet is not greater or any less than that of a human relative - it's just DIFFERENT. But I still feel an envy at Hattersley being able to voice the sentiments he felt.<br />I think that a lot (though not all) of the played-down value of animals comes from a religious perspective. In Genesis man is given domain over all animals as though they were there to be 'used' either as workers or as food, and often both. I've now read the Bible right through SIX times and isn't it strange how there isn't a single verse which instructs man to regard animals with any degree of kindness. But using them, sacrificing them, abusing them even, is all entirely laudable! They are patently of less worth than man (and woman, of course), so go ahead, do what you like with them and it won't be counted against you come judgment day!<br />I was brought up as a strict Roman Catholic, and I remained devout until my mid-20s. But I remember the first chink in that armour of religiosity came when I was 9 years old when at school a strict, rather humourless lady teacher asked the class "What's the difference between a man and an animal?" and one ginger-haired boy put up his hand "Please Miss - an animal has no soul."<br />I was devastated at hearing that, though never told anyone what I shock I felt. If an animal doesn't have a soul that means there can't be any animals in Heaven. Ever since then I've felt that if there is a paradise at all (doubtful!) one which excludes animals, ALL animals, is just not worth going to. <br /><br />Anyway, I've gone off somewhat at a tangent but the thoughts come from the same wounded place. I'll read the article again, Athene, but next time I'll be prepared of the effect it could have all over again. But I do urge others who share our feelings on this subject to also look it up. It won't be regretted.<br />Thanks very much fr the trouble you took.<br />best wishes - and hugs to you. Raybeardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424095016313843883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-19659471933649112482017-07-11T02:34:14.272-07:002017-07-11T02:34:14.272-07:00Thank you, Athene. Such lovely words which come fr...Thank you, Athene. Such lovely words which come from someone who knows the feeling of loss so well. Blackso's spirit will live on no matter what the future brings me, though I must say it's disheartening to see signs of him all over - the places where he liked to sleep, still with traces of his fur on them, and his water bowl (he drank more water than milk). I can't escape the reminders, but it's these bitter-sweet memory-prods that keep him alive in my mind.<br />Although I still have another two, who are both much more reserved than Blackso was in showing any affection, I'm not sure I want to get a 'replacement' to make it three again. At my age, now approaching 71, it'd be a daily concern that I could pre-decease any of them, and I can't bear the thought of them being taken over by someone who doesn't appreciate their company as much as I do. If ( I stress IF) I did get another it would have to be an aged cat from Cats Protection League, one who has never known a joyous life, but is possibly more likely to die before I do (which would give me heartbreaks all over again, but that's the way it goes). With such a cat who has never known true kindness and love I know it would be hard work but the rewards for attempting it would be immense. <br /><br />I've never been through this experience before as an adult. I'd guessed that it would get easier to bear with the passage of time, though it's much too soon to even look for detecting that as yet.<br />Thanks again for your generous words.Raybeardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424095016313843883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-34613379151900823072017-07-11T01:48:52.737-07:002017-07-11T01:48:52.737-07:00So sorry to hear about Blackso. You were together...So sorry to hear about Blackso. You were together such a long time. As they say here ' may You live long and be comforted by all the loving memories of your beloved companion'local alienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14586011850451326646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-18330338631794629072017-07-11T01:13:09.533-07:002017-07-11T01:13:09.533-07:00Sending you blessings and peace as you grieve for ...Sending you blessings and peace as you grieve for your little friend.Justmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05207230260976768202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-926347286766677626.post-76148359116327621402017-07-11T01:11:21.571-07:002017-07-11T01:11:21.571-07:00I don't know if you'll find this helpful, ...I don't know if you'll find this helpful, but you are certainly not alone. <br /><br />http://www.telegraph.co.uk/lifestyle/9467927/Why-like-Ben-Fogle-are-we-embarrassed-to-show-grief-over-our-dead-pets.htmlAthenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15291829962426006638noreply@blogger.com